It is interesting that some people with the Achiever–Performer Temperament (type) and IQs of 150 are not doing very well in “life”. They are not getting promotions, unable to get along with people, and are abrasive, and annoying.

Yet other people the Achiever–Performer Temperament with average IQs were soaring ahead.

Why the difference?

The difference is Emotional Quotient (EQ).

Emotional Quotient (EQ) measures your capability, capacity or the ability to manage your emotions. Like Intelligence Quotient (IQ), Emotional Quotient (EQ) is an abstract term that is usually identified by testing.

The term of EQ was used first time by E. L. Thorndike at Columbia University, in 1920. He wanted to use it to understand and manage emotions of other people. Psychologists, like John Mayer, PhD, a University of New Hampshire psychologist, differentiates EQ from emotional knowledge. He believes that EQ tests can measure your cognitive abilities the same as the classic IQ tests do.

Psychologists like Howard Gardner, Professor of Cognition and Education at the Harvard Graduate School of Education, believe that traditional types of intelligence have failed to fully explain phenomenon of your cognitive abilities. Daniel Goldman who popularized “EQ” in 1995, with his best selling book, “Emotional Intelligence,” knew there is something more than IQ needed for success in life.

Can EQ be tested?

Different explanations and writings prove that EQ tests measures your cognitive process.

It tests how do you integrate thoughts and feelings to make critical decisions?

What cognitive abilities you have?

What combination of understandable abilities and characteristics you show?

Can IQ be increased? No

Can EQ be increased? Yes

To increase your EQ with the Ninergy Experience™ is a three step process:

1. Identify your Temperament (Type)
2. Identify your Talents, Attributes, and Gifts (TAGs)
3. Increase your EQ

The first two steps are addressed in other articles. We will explain “How to Increase your EQ” by explaining two of the experiences that we use in the Ninergy Experience™.

Experience 1. - Eliminate the Negative

We do this by wearing a EQ BUILDER bracelet. The bracelet is a powerful tool to remind you when you are complaining. Here are the rules: 1. Place the bracelet on your left wrist every morning.
2. Every time when you catch yourself complaining, gossiping or criticizing, either:
a. Move the bracelet to the other wrist
or
b. Snap yourself with the bracelet and do not move the bracelet
3. If you hear someone else who is wearing a bracelet complain, you may point out their need to switch the bracelet to the other wrist; BUT, if you’re going to do this, you must move your bracelet first because you are criticizing another. >BR> 4. Keep moving or snapping your bracelet until you can keep it on the left wrist 21 consecutive s without a snap or move. Stay with it. It may take many months. Social Scientists says it takes 21 days to form a new habit. Complaining is a habit.

Free Bracelets are available at www.eqbuilder.info

How can I get someone else to stop complaining?

As you begin to transform by not complaining, you will be an example of positive living and this will inspire all around you. Moreover, because you’re not participating in the complaining, others will be far less likely to complaining to you. You can either send them to our web site at www.eqbuilder.info or get a bracelet for them.

How do I know if I’m complaining?

We define complaining as "to express pain, grief, or discontent with someone who can not do anything about your complaint." Problems can be solved. When you talk with the person that causes you a problem, you are not complaining.

A simple test is, if you can make this statement, “When you do________________ it makes me feel ______________ because _____________.”

When you are talking and thinking with people who can not solve your problem, you are attracting more pain, grief and discontent. If I think a complaint but don’t speak it do I have to move my bracelet? No, only if you speak a complaint aloud should you move your bracelet to the other wrist. You will find that the more you stop articulating your complaints, the less complaining thoughts you will have.

How can we affect positive change without complaining?

4 Complaining spreads negative. You cannot create a positive outcome with negative. You create positive by acting out the desires of your heart. Getting in touch with the desires of your heart, which is another set of experiences that is described below. Martin Luther King, Jr. when he was in Washington, DC and said America has written the them a check and it has come back “Insufficient funds.” He shared his dream that all children would live and play in harmony and peace.

Which do you remember?

Mother Teresa said she would not attend a rally Against War, but she would attend a rally For Peace.

Isn’t blowing off steam by complaining healthy?

No, for example studies have shown that complaining about one’s health actually tends to make a person’s health worse, not better.

How will not complaining help me?

The QUALITY of your life is determined by your EQ. Daniel Goleman, in his best-selling book “Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ” states that: Success is 20% IQ and 80% EQ.

He found that people with high EQs tend to be more successful in life than those with lower EQs, even if their IQs are the same. As you better manage your temperament and your TAG’s, the quality of your life will increase. You’ll have the friends you want, the money you want, and the job you want. You’ll be accepted for your temperament and its TAG’s.

The Ninergy Experience™ will increase your EQ.

Experience 2. Accentuate the Positive

This Ninergy Experience™ starts with completing the blank check printed below for what would bring you Joy. If you go to: www.thesecretofjoy.com, you will receive Money-Emails every couple of days for weeks. You will receive a Money-Email from the Bank of the UnEnding Abundance. Each Money-Email will detail how much “virtual” money has been deposited into your “virtual” bank account. Of course, this will not be "real" money, but think about it as real money, get as excited as if you were receiving REAL money!! If you cannot do it with “virtual” money, you will never do it with real money.

To raise your EQ, you must master the Law of Attraction.

You will receive larger and larger amounts of “virtual” money over the weeks. The first email is for a $1000 but they will be ever increasing. Make it easy on yourself by preparing a list of things you would buy if money were no object.

Don't put limits on your choices, think BIG.

Attracting what you desire into your life comes from a combination of getting clear on what it is that you "really" want, and FEEL a passion or inspiration of how you will enjoy that thing in your life. What brings you joy!! Understand that the more you desire something and know that it can be yours, and feel the feeling, the faster you allow it to be attracted into your life. Writing the check helps you focus on not only the money coming in, but the money going out - the continual flow of abundance that you are tapping into. You must spend at least 20 seconds thinking about what the desires of your heart are as you write a check for the item.

Additional Checks at Web Site www.thesecretofjoy.com

Spend at least 20 seconds

If you do not spend at least 20 seconds on how you think and feel about each purchase, you are wasting your time. The objective is for you to "spend" the money before the next money comes to buy whatever your heart desires. The money comes every 2-4 days.

Buy whatever brings you happiness.

Use your money in whatever way brings joy to your heart. Beyond your hearts desires, happiness and joy, there are no guidelines. As well as having a lot of fun spending this money, you will also attract more money in the REAL world.

To receive maximum benefit, try to spend something each and every day. The goal is for the money to be spent by the time the next money arrives. You have to spend the money

Do not let it sit in a bank doing nothing - spend it! You are changing your prosperity consciousness forever!

Be open to RECEIVE more.

It is about ACCEPTING more and knowing you DESERVE more. It is about RELEASING and letting that money flow out again. So please, spend, spend, spend on yourself during the game - and of course ENJOY!

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